If you tell me how you get your feeling of importance, I’ll tell you what you are. – Dale Carnegie
I always supported that view but at the same struggled with it.
You see, love is both restrictive and generalist at the same time. It is restrictive in that it advocates one or two things that I “love” and go find a job / opportunity / place that supports that. It is also generalist in that it advocates “love” that is so relative, you see I love eating … and I love art … so will I go and rush to become a food critic / restauranteur or gallery owner in a rush?
I came across the quote above and thought that maybe we ought to start asking people about appreciation … what makes you feel important?
While some may see this as self-involved, isn’t that the whole point?
When we tell people to do what they love … we are asking them to follow a desire irrespective of impact. But when ask them to do what makes them feel important … we are ultimately asking them to take their passion and apply it to an area, place, action, words, etc… where they feel appreciated, i.e. making an impact.
This appreciation translated to motivation to keep on learning and improving.
Whether you are in high school, university, early career days, stay at home parent or experienced professional assessing goals, what makes you feel important?
The clarity that emerges will no doubt surprise you.
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